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To the nines

“Form is exactly emptiness, emptiness exactly form.” Buddhist “Heart of Perfect Wisdom Sutra” Sam, It is the year of the Monkey, the ninth of twelve animals in the Chinese zodiac cycle. And, the ninth year of living without you—and your monkey-hugs.

Unfriended

“In prosperity our friends know us; in adversity we know our friends.” ~ John Churton Collins If you are an underclassman (in your first few years) majoring, involuntarily, in Life after the Death of your Child, you may find yourself bewildered at the flight of your friends, at the loss of […]

Day 24, “Returning”

Poem #24: “Returning” As a child, I looked When I heard the jingle Of my lost dog’s metal tags Paper phone numbers fading Blowing away I looked Just in case And there she was… Returning Now, I look When I hear the sound Of my lost child’s melting voice Footsteps on […]

The shadows beside me

Boys at sunset, Naples '04

  While we (bereaved parents) are readjusting to our perception of what grief is, and who we are as we grieve, and how our relationship with our deceased child will be, grief changes and evolves, subsides and resurfaces. 

Save yourself

LifeSaver

Words that delivered In her memoir, Lucky, Alice Sebold said, “No one can pull anyone back from anywhere. You save yourself or you remain unsaved.” It is true. You have to save yourself (no one can pull you back from this place). You have to trust yourself. You have to be the expert […]

Finding New Meaning

Book Life

He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how. – Friedrich Nietzsche How Do We Go On In The Aftermath Of Pain And Traumatic Loss? The answer offered by well-known author and Holocaust survivor, Victor Frankl is consistent with positive psychology, definitions of post-traumatic growth and the nature of the […]

On Keeping Belongings

On Keeping Belongings – The 10th Anniversary of Gili’s Death. By Henya Shanun-Klein, Ph.D. If you ask a bereaved parent: “What would you have saved first (assuming that there were no people nor animals in the house) if your house was caught on fire?” My guess is that the parent’s […]

Weeping willow

The weeping willow symbolizes beauty and melancholy and has long been associated with death and grief. The willow, tree of tears, tree of enchantment, intuition and dreams, tree of life, muse to poets and artists, rich in folklore and mythology, is a mysterious tree. With its flexible branches it inspires us to […]